says: April 23, 2012 at 11:37am
One thing that Toby did here is particularly notwhortey in my mind…he treated ego and confidence as the same thing. While I wouldn’t say they are exactly the same thing, I would offer this: confidence feeds ego. Without confidence or frail confidence, ego would be extremely fragile. Perhaps that is the point… a man’s ego will be fragile if it is based on weak or brittle confidence. Obviously, we are speaking in huge generalities, but a woman’s confidence can be shaken because they have a tendency to self-doubt. If women drive their confidence internally and when faced with a lack of confidence can use external sources to compensate for this, their confidence can be more easily shaken. If a man’s confidence and therefore ego are driven by external forces, there are more areas to build confidence in… work, play, relationships, building stuff, creating things…things that a man would take pride in. One other thought, women are taught in society to build confidence on what they look like rather than who they are. This can lead to self-doubt and lack of confidence. Therefore, while both are pretty darn fragile, I’d have to say that a woman’s confidence is more easily shaken. But then again, I am a guy and this is about as philosophical as I’ve gotten in quite a long time!